Posted by ibot | Posted in parenting teenagers | Posted on 05.27
Parenting teenagers Most parents - whether they admit it or not - respond to early adolescence of their children either anxiety or outright fear. We look back on our own adolescence and wonder how our parents lived through our whims, our raging hormones, our rebellion and our attitude. It's almost as if the night our parents went from knowing nothing to knowing everything from the understanding of our hopes and dreams for not being aware of who we are and what we want from life. In retrospect, we know that parents, young people no picnic, and I can not imagine how we managed to survive the test.
If only one parent handbook or parent directory, adolescents would be increased much easier. Even a family newsletter with tips and advice would be welcome and feel as if we are not alone in our journey. Never doubt that we want the best for our children, but what should we do if we lose our composure, and absorbed by another argument about friends or clothes or the car? Is there any hope of another pleasant holiday and family? How do we know when our teenage son has only the blues and when he or she is clinically depressed? If the latter, what skills are involved in raising troubled teens?
Although you can go to our teenage son to fear, the truth is that parents of adolescents can be very satisfying. Here are four tips to get through the teenage years.
First recognize our power. Despite our young people do not like to admit, still exert enormous influence over them. Do not think that we hear, but they are. In times of stress in which we tried to take the bait and make ultimatums or are in a dispute, it is important to remember that we are still role models for our teenagers. The more you take the high road, the more benefit they will.
Second Loosen the platform. Accepting that to separate the effects of adolescence and to distinguish it from the parents. To start our young people to develop their preferences and personal opinions, especially when treated "like an adult who is" it is difficult to get the right balance between control vertical and find the opportunity to maintain their individuality. We have the right and duty to establish rules and standards, but it can not arbitrarily established for them. If you show that our teenagers are trustworthy, then we have room to grow.
Third Be vigilant. It is hard to imagine that teen parents is more difficult than parents of young people, but it's true. We may have solved the apron, but that does not mean we must let go. All young people have secrets, and it is our job to ensure that our young people "no mysteries have the potential to harm others or themselves. This does not mean snooping (trust in both directions), but it means to remain involved and their activities and friends.
Fourth Listen with our ears and our hearts. Young people are notoriously closed, so it is doubly important. This means so much to listen when he speaks and if they did not. As the saying goes, silence can speak volumes, it is crucial to learn to interpret the different types of silence. We must learn to listen, like him. This does not mean that the propaganda of our teenagers with questions, but ask for their thoughts and really know what to say - without judging or correcting them. All young people in search of acceptance, and although most of the missing go through periods of being accepted by their peers, we are not able to fill the gaps.
There is no doubt that adolescent motherhood is incredibly difficult. And the reality is we do not see the fruits of our efforts over several years. But if we devote our time and develop the skills to raise our teenagers actually do, what are the rewards, both now and in the future.
If only one parent handbook or parent directory, adolescents would be increased much easier. Even a family newsletter with tips and advice would be welcome and feel as if we are not alone in our journey. Never doubt that we want the best for our children, but what should we do if we lose our composure, and absorbed by another argument about friends or clothes or the car? Is there any hope of another pleasant holiday and family? How do we know when our teenage son has only the blues and when he or she is clinically depressed? If the latter, what skills are involved in raising troubled teens?
Although you can go to our teenage son to fear, the truth is that parents of adolescents can be very satisfying. Here are four tips to get through the teenage years.
First recognize our power. Despite our young people do not like to admit, still exert enormous influence over them. Do not think that we hear, but they are. In times of stress in which we tried to take the bait and make ultimatums or are in a dispute, it is important to remember that we are still role models for our teenagers. The more you take the high road, the more benefit they will.
Second Loosen the platform. Accepting that to separate the effects of adolescence and to distinguish it from the parents. To start our young people to develop their preferences and personal opinions, especially when treated "like an adult who is" it is difficult to get the right balance between control vertical and find the opportunity to maintain their individuality. We have the right and duty to establish rules and standards, but it can not arbitrarily established for them. If you show that our teenagers are trustworthy, then we have room to grow.
Third Be vigilant. It is hard to imagine that teen parents is more difficult than parents of young people, but it's true. We may have solved the apron, but that does not mean we must let go. All young people have secrets, and it is our job to ensure that our young people "no mysteries have the potential to harm others or themselves. This does not mean snooping (trust in both directions), but it means to remain involved and their activities and friends.
Fourth Listen with our ears and our hearts. Young people are notoriously closed, so it is doubly important. This means so much to listen when he speaks and if they did not. As the saying goes, silence can speak volumes, it is crucial to learn to interpret the different types of silence. We must learn to listen, like him. This does not mean that the propaganda of our teenagers with questions, but ask for their thoughts and really know what to say - without judging or correcting them. All young people in search of acceptance, and although most of the missing go through periods of being accepted by their peers, we are not able to fill the gaps.
There is no doubt that adolescent motherhood is incredibly difficult. And the reality is we do not see the fruits of our efforts over several years. But if we devote our time and develop the skills to raise our teenagers actually do, what are the rewards, both now and in the future.
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